It's amazing that once ppl figured out I was going through a divorce how many others there are that I didn't know had gone through this. They share their divorce stories and how they got through it. Most of the stories about the ex-husband's actions sound pretty similar to my soon-to-be-ex. There is still a lot of hurt and anger. I am sure I will always carry that hurt and feeling of betrayal with me where he is concerned. I can't just dismiss this with 'He is what he is'. But I will move on. I have no choice. I refuse to let this end me or define the rest of my life.
I did, however, decide that the way he did this has shown a lack of respect...besides cowardliness. And, as such, am giving myself a birthday present. Instead of our son picking him up from the airport to go to his hotel...then going out to dinner with the kids, I am going to pick him up from the airport and take him back to his hotel room so we can have a face-to-face. THEN he can go out to dinner with the kids.
Doing a divorce by phone and email is just not right. Being told by your husband he wants a divorce by email is crap...then working it out over the phone and via email and txt is crap.
I need some closure. I shared my life with him for 25 years...he pulled me through drug abuse, abandonment, identity theft, bankruptcy and more moves than I care to count. He owes me a face-to-face. I promise not to do bodily harm. There will not be wailing and gnashing of teeth.
And perhaps afterwards I can find a way to move on. God will guide me. He has a new life waiting for me NOW.
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