Hormonal Habits

I was putting some dishes and things away in the cupboards when the weirdest thing occurred to me.  Will my kids have any 'home habits' to carry with them as they move on to their own lives as adults?

I grew up in the same house, same town...life was basically the same all the time.  There was the time while I was in high school when my mother had gall bladder and cancer surgery..then when I was in college and my father was part of the down turn in economy and was out of work for 2 years and my mom had a job outside the home.  We adjusted fairly easily though. 

But for the most part things were the same.  My mother had daily habits that we carried with us. 

However, my kids have had a much less stable life.  Troy was always changing jobs...either by choice or because of necessity...and we moved to various and different communities...different houses.  And with each change there was a lot of changes made to any 'routines' we had had from the place we had lived before.

There are certain HABITS I have tried to instill in my kids.  Small organizational things that will make life easier.  The simplest one...find ONE place to put certain things (like car keys!) and take a second to put them there EVERYTIME..until it becomes such a habit it is automatic and they will not be running around looking for things and wasting time. 

I realized the other day though that I have a long way to go with my kids to get them ready to live on their own.  My son has a slight knowledge of how to cook a bit.  My daughter, however, is another story. When I send her a txt from work during lunch and ask her to boil some eggs for me for something I am making for dinner when I get home, and she txts back with, "I don't know how"...wow.  I had to give her step by step directions...and she still didn't have them cooked.  oy.

I am going to start giving her more cooking assignments.  I just hope I live through it.

The gf my son has now...at first I thought he hit the jackpot.  The longer he's with her, the more I'm questioning the whole thing.  He tells me she has borderline bi-polar disorder.  He says, "she controls it most of the time (who does that on their own...really) except when it is that time of the month...then I've seen how she just goes totally nuts.  First of all, I don't think it is bipolar disorder.  Has she ever really been diagnosed?  And if it is only during that time of the month that she's nuts, it may be something more hormonal.  I told him she needs to at least take something OTC, but it may not help all that much.  OR she could try soy.  She refuses to be put on meds to control her mood...but I don't want my son harmed!  She is all over the place crazy when it comes around.  You hear news stories about women that have gone hormonally berserk and killed ppl.  Whether it is that or it truly is bipolar disorder...the latter scares me too.

Sometimes I wish my son was more like Sheldon Cooper.  TJ attracts nut jobs.  One of them put him in jail.  It is amazing how elaborate they can get with deception even while being crazy.

Right now I would much rather deal with lack of cooking knowledge than crazy relationships.

I was told in a family psych class that women marry men that are like their mothers.  Do sons marry women like their fathers?  Kinda seems like that is where TJ is headed.