Am I living in something like "The Ed Show"? Is my life really a televised soap opera and I don't know it? Actually, it would explain a lot. I don't remember signing a contract for anything like that.
Psycho gf is gone and TJ found out that a guy he considered a good friend was messing with Psycho behind his back. All the while Psycho and 'friend' were picking at him making him feel badly about himself. But TJ started telling me things Jayce was saying...and doing with the relationship he had. Then I ran back the reel of Ashley's behavior for the last few weeks and came up with ...the hook up. I told TJ what I suspected was going on. He denied that his 'friend' would do that. But he confronted psycho. She denied it for the first 24 hours..then admitted it with proof.
Is there not one decent female out there? I thought when Ashley came along that he finally had a 'good one'. But it didn't take her long to show her true colors.
I hate to see my son turn from being a loyal, trustworthy individual into a suspicious/jaded person. But it happens to the best of us.
My daughter has embraced the 'DTA' attitude mentality early in her HS life. She has 2 friends that she knows she can rely on. She is a blessed person. I have one. Ppl will judge her by her outward looks but I don't. She is the best person I know. And she has been there through everything...and has been the best support (beyond my family) that I know of.
I really don't look forward to when Bethany dates. She has not dated all the way through HS. She had the one bf in 9th grade and apparently that relationship was too much for her. She swore off dating until later in life. Her 2 friends have not dated either. No...there is nothing going on there among them! They just are not ready to deal with the whole male/sex thing. It is good to wait.
Wish my son had waited.
Wednesday, May 22, 2013
Saturday, May 18, 2013
Hormonal Habits
I was putting some dishes and things away in the cupboards when the weirdest thing occurred to me. Will my kids have any 'home habits' to carry with them as they move on to their own lives as adults?
I grew up in the same house, same town...life was basically the same all the time. There was the time while I was in high school when my mother had gall bladder and cancer surgery..then when I was in college and my father was part of the down turn in economy and was out of work for 2 years and my mom had a job outside the home. We adjusted fairly easily though.
But for the most part things were the same. My mother had daily habits that we carried with us.
However, my kids have had a much less stable life. Troy was always changing jobs...either by choice or because of necessity...and we moved to various and different communities...different houses. And with each change there was a lot of changes made to any 'routines' we had had from the place we had lived before.
There are certain HABITS I have tried to instill in my kids. Small organizational things that will make life easier. The simplest one...find ONE place to put certain things (like car keys!) and take a second to put them there EVERYTIME..until it becomes such a habit it is automatic and they will not be running around looking for things and wasting time.
I realized the other day though that I have a long way to go with my kids to get them ready to live on their own. My son has a slight knowledge of how to cook a bit. My daughter, however, is another story. When I send her a txt from work during lunch and ask her to boil some eggs for me for something I am making for dinner when I get home, and she txts back with, "I don't know how"...wow. I had to give her step by step directions...and she still didn't have them cooked. oy.
I am going to start giving her more cooking assignments. I just hope I live through it.
The gf my son has now...at first I thought he hit the jackpot. The longer he's with her, the more I'm questioning the whole thing. He tells me she has borderline bi-polar disorder. He says, "she controls it most of the time (who does that on their own...really) except when it is that time of the month...then I've seen how she just goes totally nuts. First of all, I don't think it is bipolar disorder. Has she ever really been diagnosed? And if it is only during that time of the month that she's nuts, it may be something more hormonal. I told him she needs to at least take something OTC, but it may not help all that much. OR she could try soy. She refuses to be put on meds to control her mood...but I don't want my son harmed! She is all over the place crazy when it comes around. You hear news stories about women that have gone hormonally berserk and killed ppl. Whether it is that or it truly is bipolar disorder...the latter scares me too.
Sometimes I wish my son was more like Sheldon Cooper. TJ attracts nut jobs. One of them put him in jail. It is amazing how elaborate they can get with deception even while being crazy.
Right now I would much rather deal with lack of cooking knowledge than crazy relationships.
I was told in a family psych class that women marry men that are like their mothers. Do sons marry women like their fathers? Kinda seems like that is where TJ is headed.
I grew up in the same house, same town...life was basically the same all the time. There was the time while I was in high school when my mother had gall bladder and cancer surgery..then when I was in college and my father was part of the down turn in economy and was out of work for 2 years and my mom had a job outside the home. We adjusted fairly easily though.
But for the most part things were the same. My mother had daily habits that we carried with us.
However, my kids have had a much less stable life. Troy was always changing jobs...either by choice or because of necessity...and we moved to various and different communities...different houses. And with each change there was a lot of changes made to any 'routines' we had had from the place we had lived before.
There are certain HABITS I have tried to instill in my kids. Small organizational things that will make life easier. The simplest one...find ONE place to put certain things (like car keys!) and take a second to put them there EVERYTIME..until it becomes such a habit it is automatic and they will not be running around looking for things and wasting time.
I realized the other day though that I have a long way to go with my kids to get them ready to live on their own. My son has a slight knowledge of how to cook a bit. My daughter, however, is another story. When I send her a txt from work during lunch and ask her to boil some eggs for me for something I am making for dinner when I get home, and she txts back with, "I don't know how"...wow. I had to give her step by step directions...and she still didn't have them cooked. oy.
I am going to start giving her more cooking assignments. I just hope I live through it.
The gf my son has now...at first I thought he hit the jackpot. The longer he's with her, the more I'm questioning the whole thing. He tells me she has borderline bi-polar disorder. He says, "she controls it most of the time (who does that on their own...really) except when it is that time of the month...then I've seen how she just goes totally nuts. First of all, I don't think it is bipolar disorder. Has she ever really been diagnosed? And if it is only during that time of the month that she's nuts, it may be something more hormonal. I told him she needs to at least take something OTC, but it may not help all that much. OR she could try soy. She refuses to be put on meds to control her mood...but I don't want my son harmed! She is all over the place crazy when it comes around. You hear news stories about women that have gone hormonally berserk and killed ppl. Whether it is that or it truly is bipolar disorder...the latter scares me too.
Sometimes I wish my son was more like Sheldon Cooper. TJ attracts nut jobs. One of them put him in jail. It is amazing how elaborate they can get with deception even while being crazy.
Right now I would much rather deal with lack of cooking knowledge than crazy relationships.
I was told in a family psych class that women marry men that are like their mothers. Do sons marry women like their fathers? Kinda seems like that is where TJ is headed.
Sunday, May 12, 2013
Family Outings
So the Mr. has swung into Mr Nice Guy mode again. He came back from his trip to Wichita feeling exhilarated.
On Saturday, I had a job fair I wanted to attend because there was a company there that I am particularly interested in becoming a part of. I stopped at the county job and family booth to speak with a friend that works there. She told me to use my LinkedIn to help me get into that company. I told her I didn't have any sort of connection. Then she told me the one woman working at their booth is a friend of hers so she could connect us. Cool! I also told her that I had a really good conversation with the guy working the booth and he seemed really interested in my job experience and was writing all over my resume. My friend told me that was a good sign.
Troy went along because there was an Aerospace company there that he wanted to check out. They, unfortunately, didn't really have anything that was in his field of expertise. Our daughter went and spoke to a company that told her about an internship she could sign up for. Then TJ showed up and talked to a company there. We all went to Logan's Steakhouse for an early Mother's Day celebration. Mr. treated us out of HIS private stash.
After I got home, I pulled up my LinkedIn and brought up that company I am interested in and was surprised to find that the CEO of the company is one of my connections. So, I sent him an email. This morning I found that he had checked out my profile. Who knows...I may find that not too far down the road that I will get out of the Customer Solutions Rep. business at the utility company I am at right now. That would be an answer to prayer!
The local meteorologist advised of possible frost over night for the weekend so, without me saying anything, Mr. went out and brought in all of my planters. It is not that I don't appreciate it...it is just that I get so sick of him stomping around and grouching and complaining and pointing out all the things I do wrong...in his opinion. THEN he'll turn around and be so very nice and like he's bending over backwards trying to make up for it. I can't take it!
TJ and his gf had their first major disagreement. It is a matter of communication. The difference with this girl is she is mature enough to tell TJ that she doesn't want to lose him and she needed time to work things out with him. I talked to him about communication and how to work his way through it. I wanted him to have the benefit of my lessons learned. I guess they have it all patched up because they are all lovey-dovey on the Facebook again. blech. LOL
The countdown has started for Bethany's graduation open house. 3 weeks. oy. I still have so much to do around here with the family coming. Luckily, Bethany has no more school to attend so she is more than happy (ha!) to help out around here to help me get things ready.
She also is feeling pretty good because she has secured her first job...McDonalds. It is no one's dream job but a first job for a 17 year old, this is about as good as it gets. It will certainly be a major shock/shove into the world and how to deal with humanity while growing a tough hide.
I don't know which is worse...shoving your kid into their first day of school and praying that they aren't the target of bullies or shoving them out there to their first job and praying they have good people to work with.
TJ bought Troy and I tickets to Huey Lewis and the News concert in June. Troy's ticket was an early father's day present. TJ bought himself a ticket to go with us. I told Bethany I'd buy her a ticket then we can attend as a family. The last time we did something like that it was to attend a free concert in the park with Dr. Hook and the 3 Dog Night. The kids had been pumped full of their music the weeks leading up to the concert so that we could all sit there and sing along.
Not many opportunities like that left. Not long and life will all be different.
On Saturday, I had a job fair I wanted to attend because there was a company there that I am particularly interested in becoming a part of. I stopped at the county job and family booth to speak with a friend that works there. She told me to use my LinkedIn to help me get into that company. I told her I didn't have any sort of connection. Then she told me the one woman working at their booth is a friend of hers so she could connect us. Cool! I also told her that I had a really good conversation with the guy working the booth and he seemed really interested in my job experience and was writing all over my resume. My friend told me that was a good sign.
Troy went along because there was an Aerospace company there that he wanted to check out. They, unfortunately, didn't really have anything that was in his field of expertise. Our daughter went and spoke to a company that told her about an internship she could sign up for. Then TJ showed up and talked to a company there. We all went to Logan's Steakhouse for an early Mother's Day celebration. Mr. treated us out of HIS private stash.
After I got home, I pulled up my LinkedIn and brought up that company I am interested in and was surprised to find that the CEO of the company is one of my connections. So, I sent him an email. This morning I found that he had checked out my profile. Who knows...I may find that not too far down the road that I will get out of the Customer Solutions Rep. business at the utility company I am at right now. That would be an answer to prayer!
The local meteorologist advised of possible frost over night for the weekend so, without me saying anything, Mr. went out and brought in all of my planters. It is not that I don't appreciate it...it is just that I get so sick of him stomping around and grouching and complaining and pointing out all the things I do wrong...in his opinion. THEN he'll turn around and be so very nice and like he's bending over backwards trying to make up for it. I can't take it!
TJ and his gf had their first major disagreement. It is a matter of communication. The difference with this girl is she is mature enough to tell TJ that she doesn't want to lose him and she needed time to work things out with him. I talked to him about communication and how to work his way through it. I wanted him to have the benefit of my lessons learned. I guess they have it all patched up because they are all lovey-dovey on the Facebook again. blech. LOL
The countdown has started for Bethany's graduation open house. 3 weeks. oy. I still have so much to do around here with the family coming. Luckily, Bethany has no more school to attend so she is more than happy (ha!) to help out around here to help me get things ready.
She also is feeling pretty good because she has secured her first job...McDonalds. It is no one's dream job but a first job for a 17 year old, this is about as good as it gets. It will certainly be a major shock/shove into the world and how to deal with humanity while growing a tough hide.
I don't know which is worse...shoving your kid into their first day of school and praying that they aren't the target of bullies or shoving them out there to their first job and praying they have good people to work with.
TJ bought Troy and I tickets to Huey Lewis and the News concert in June. Troy's ticket was an early father's day present. TJ bought himself a ticket to go with us. I told Bethany I'd buy her a ticket then we can attend as a family. The last time we did something like that it was to attend a free concert in the park with Dr. Hook and the 3 Dog Night. The kids had been pumped full of their music the weeks leading up to the concert so that we could all sit there and sing along.
Not many opportunities like that left. Not long and life will all be different.
Friday, May 3, 2013
Mindless Time Passing
I have never been full of endless amounts of energy. I am not the laziest person on earth but I enjoy down time. I will feel energetic for a while and try to do as much as I can while feeling that burst of energy. Then I hit a wall.
Today was my wall. I hit a wall mentally too. Tomorrow is the community garage sale and I forgot to go to the bank and get change. This could be a problem.
I do worry about my 'thinker' sometimes. Simple words will disappear in the middle of a sentence. And I feel like I am quickly searching every corner of my brain to find it. I have taken to putting sticky notes everywhere. You should see my work cubicle. I have been told the 'foggy' is part of fibromyalgia.
The one thing I enjoy about garage sales is watching the 'shoppers'. Thank goodness the garage sale shoppers are not as outlandish as the Walmart shoppers. I prefer to be entertained...not disgusted.
There was one thing that happened at work today that left me shaking my head...even after some of the weird, angry, entitled customers that I have had. Some guy called in to get some information on some of his properties and change some things so I had to go through a lot of different screens, etc. He was yapping the whole time. He had mentioned something about Star Wars and then he said, "well, that was before your time" I laughed and said, "I watched it when it first come out." He said something about my voice sounding young and I said, "at least something about me is young." I went on and kept trying to keep him to the business at hand...but while I was doing some typing on some of the screens his mouth was a moving...yap yap yap...and I was ignoring most of what he was yapping about because, frankly, I thought he was a kook. Then as we finished up he said, "Well, your voice sounds really nice and I'll bet you look as good as your voice sounds." To which I said, "oooo...kkkk...we have everything done here and if you have any more business that needs to be done you can call BACK to customer service. Have a nice day!" and I disconnected the call.
The thing that sticks with me the most is how uncomfortable the guy made me feel. I was trying to keep everything on task, get the business done without being rude to the customer...but if I had my way I would have told the nut job to go meet himself somewhere and call back when he was done.
Sometimes I just feel like I am SO OVER humans. LOL
Today was my wall. I hit a wall mentally too. Tomorrow is the community garage sale and I forgot to go to the bank and get change. This could be a problem.
I do worry about my 'thinker' sometimes. Simple words will disappear in the middle of a sentence. And I feel like I am quickly searching every corner of my brain to find it. I have taken to putting sticky notes everywhere. You should see my work cubicle. I have been told the 'foggy' is part of fibromyalgia.
The one thing I enjoy about garage sales is watching the 'shoppers'. Thank goodness the garage sale shoppers are not as outlandish as the Walmart shoppers. I prefer to be entertained...not disgusted.
There was one thing that happened at work today that left me shaking my head...even after some of the weird, angry, entitled customers that I have had. Some guy called in to get some information on some of his properties and change some things so I had to go through a lot of different screens, etc. He was yapping the whole time. He had mentioned something about Star Wars and then he said, "well, that was before your time" I laughed and said, "I watched it when it first come out." He said something about my voice sounding young and I said, "at least something about me is young." I went on and kept trying to keep him to the business at hand...but while I was doing some typing on some of the screens his mouth was a moving...yap yap yap...and I was ignoring most of what he was yapping about because, frankly, I thought he was a kook. Then as we finished up he said, "Well, your voice sounds really nice and I'll bet you look as good as your voice sounds." To which I said, "oooo...kkkk...we have everything done here and if you have any more business that needs to be done you can call BACK to customer service. Have a nice day!" and I disconnected the call.
The thing that sticks with me the most is how uncomfortable the guy made me feel. I was trying to keep everything on task, get the business done without being rude to the customer...but if I had my way I would have told the nut job to go meet himself somewhere and call back when he was done.
Sometimes I just feel like I am SO OVER humans. LOL
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