We knew it was going to be hell on wheels when Sr. had to go through withdrawal. We are all suffering. Sr. has been after TJ every day...yelling about the same things. TJ has been sick fighting off a wisdom tooth infection and a sinus infection. He just started antibiotics Tuesday. He has been trying.
Last night, Troy started in again and TJ just opened his mouth and let it fly. Troy has been pushing, trying to get the kid to explode so he could use it for an excuse. Things got physical and I had to step in but it wasn't easy. Troy provoked TJ, TJ provoked right back...and Troy threw the first punch...then hand on the kid's throat and up agains the wall. I would have punched him if I had gotten there fast enough. TJ punched him and I grabbed his arm.
In the end, after I got my daughter and son out of hte house, left her with a friend and drove around talking to him...while Troy took off then came back...everyone got an apology except me. I heard Troy packing his bags...making a big noise about it, wanting me to intervene. I just got on my exercise machine and ignored him. I am so freakin' sick of the drama. I am so freaking sick of having to intervene and calm everyone down...being the go between. I am freaking sick of being told I am not being supportive.
Then, on top of everything else, the girl that TJ has been friends with from last year, picked yesterday to get into it with her mother. When she does that, her bipolar nut of a mother calls my son and yells at him cuz she says her daughter's beligerence is his fault. So, true to form the bipolar witch called him last night. I had JUST been talking to him about how that association was not a good one and could only cause more drama and trouble and he just needed to back away. Well....I had been trying to let him handle it all but last night was NOT the night...so I grabbed the phone, told her she was not EVER to speak to my son again and I hung up on her. I messaged that girl and told her exactly how I felt about all of it and I did not approve of the relationship. She told me she understood and she had appreciated how nice I had always been to her and the advice I had given her and she didn't want to cause us any trouble. She said she would not be contacting TJ for a long time...things had to blow over and she didn't know when that would be.
I feel bad for the girl but TJ is in no position EVER to put up with the hassle and I surely don't need anymore.
Today I feel like I have gone 9 rounds with Sugar Ray. And I'm not talkin' 'bout Dancing With the Stars.
I am not sure I can handle 2 more years.
btw...Troy left today with his computer bag to see a client. No suitcases. Guess he didn't get the attention he wanted about it and decided not to leave.
I have prayed for miracles and seen them happen. I really don't have a clue as to where to turn and where to go at this point. I need another miracle.
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
The Stench of It All
I had one of those weird memory connect strings going on in my brain today. I keep thinking about a conversation I had with my younger sister yesterday...and I was just kind of flabbergasted by what she said.
She has been complaining for the last year about the excessive BO and foot odor her oldest daughter has (she is 9 years old). She said that when Gabby gets home from school they have to soak her feet in tea water cuz it takes the smell out and wash the insoles of her shoes. I told her that she should start the girl on clinical strength underarm deodorant...preferably Degree. My Bethany had some pretty strong BO when she started puberty. Five years later it isn't so bad anymore but I still buy her the clinical strength Degree.
THEN my sister gets around to telling me that she has a hard time getting her girls to take baths...even though they only do it twice a week. This is where my mouth dropped open. AND she says that Gabby's hair is starting to look stringy. TWICE A WEEK??? I told her that my kids have ALWAYS had a bath every day. They have grown up with phobias about being unclean and having dirty looking hair. I have always believed that if one smells good then that alone will cause people to be nicer to you. Looking good is part of it...smelling good (especially if you smell like something that gives them comfort like cookies or peppermint) is a REALLY good thing. I wear lotion that smells like vanilla sugar cookies, candy canes, honeysuckle, berries. Who doesn't like food? LOL
I do not know where she got the idea that kids should only bathe twice a week. I know when we were growing up that was our mother's idea. But she got that from living out in the country with a well. They had to conserve their water. By the time I was in 4th grade I started washing my hair every day and bathing way more often. Then it turned into every day by the time I hit 5th grade. For all my mom's phobia about things staying clean you would have thought she would have realized that we needed more than a Wednesday and Saturday night bath. I told my lil sis that putting more deodorant on her daughter if she hadn't had a bath was like putting flowers in an onion bag. Why let the stink pile up? Am I the only one that thinks about this stuff? I mean REALLY. I told her that she was doing her daughters a disservice cuz she was deterring their ability to keep friends! sheesh. I can't believe I'm related to her! My son and daughter know the value of not being malodorous...my daughter has a string of body sprays and lotions she begged off of me from our favorite place: Bath and Body Works. My son wears axe products. They brush their teeth twice a day. They wear clean clothes (two changings a day...not usually necessary but...).
The niece's stinky shoes reminded me of my first fiance'. I had bought him a pair of suede boots one Christmas. He loved them and wore them all the time. The problem was...they didn't exactly 'breathe'. They got so bad that he had to start leaving them outside the house in a covered porch. I swear they smelled like an opossum had crawled in there and died.
He had a niece, Pammy. Pammy did not like me. She was one of those bully type mean girls. She thought I was too prissy and goody-goody. I think it was the next Christmas he took her shopping with him to 'help' pick out some clothes to give me for Christmas. I opened up this one box and it was all I could do not to scream in horror. She got me all right. Let's just say the outfit looked like something Laura Ingals would wear out there in the prairie. It was a deep jewel color with a sort of cocoa brown accent color. Long CORDUROY skirt with about 3 tiers of ruffles, a ruffle on the waist. And it had a matching vest. I just pasted a smile on my face cuz he looked so proud of that outfit. When he told me that Pammy had helped him pick it out then it made sense. She asked me later, with a wicked smile on her face, how I liked the outfit. I told her it was the most unusual outfit I had ever seen and couldn't wait to wear it. I don't think I've ever seen a smile hit the floor quite so fast. I ended up removing one of the ruffles in order fot it to not cover my feet. I bought some matching brown boots and found a shirt to match and ended up wearing it quite often that winter. I was doing my student teaching so it came in handy. Pammy was not happy. LOL
So...there's my thread...stinky niece...stinky boots...stinky almost niece. LOL
She has been complaining for the last year about the excessive BO and foot odor her oldest daughter has (she is 9 years old). She said that when Gabby gets home from school they have to soak her feet in tea water cuz it takes the smell out and wash the insoles of her shoes. I told her that she should start the girl on clinical strength underarm deodorant...preferably Degree. My Bethany had some pretty strong BO when she started puberty. Five years later it isn't so bad anymore but I still buy her the clinical strength Degree.
THEN my sister gets around to telling me that she has a hard time getting her girls to take baths...even though they only do it twice a week. This is where my mouth dropped open. AND she says that Gabby's hair is starting to look stringy. TWICE A WEEK??? I told her that my kids have ALWAYS had a bath every day. They have grown up with phobias about being unclean and having dirty looking hair. I have always believed that if one smells good then that alone will cause people to be nicer to you. Looking good is part of it...smelling good (especially if you smell like something that gives them comfort like cookies or peppermint) is a REALLY good thing. I wear lotion that smells like vanilla sugar cookies, candy canes, honeysuckle, berries. Who doesn't like food? LOL
I do not know where she got the idea that kids should only bathe twice a week. I know when we were growing up that was our mother's idea. But she got that from living out in the country with a well. They had to conserve their water. By the time I was in 4th grade I started washing my hair every day and bathing way more often. Then it turned into every day by the time I hit 5th grade. For all my mom's phobia about things staying clean you would have thought she would have realized that we needed more than a Wednesday and Saturday night bath. I told my lil sis that putting more deodorant on her daughter if she hadn't had a bath was like putting flowers in an onion bag. Why let the stink pile up? Am I the only one that thinks about this stuff? I mean REALLY. I told her that she was doing her daughters a disservice cuz she was deterring their ability to keep friends! sheesh. I can't believe I'm related to her! My son and daughter know the value of not being malodorous...my daughter has a string of body sprays and lotions she begged off of me from our favorite place: Bath and Body Works. My son wears axe products. They brush their teeth twice a day. They wear clean clothes (two changings a day...not usually necessary but...).
The niece's stinky shoes reminded me of my first fiance'. I had bought him a pair of suede boots one Christmas. He loved them and wore them all the time. The problem was...they didn't exactly 'breathe'. They got so bad that he had to start leaving them outside the house in a covered porch. I swear they smelled like an opossum had crawled in there and died.
He had a niece, Pammy. Pammy did not like me. She was one of those bully type mean girls. She thought I was too prissy and goody-goody. I think it was the next Christmas he took her shopping with him to 'help' pick out some clothes to give me for Christmas. I opened up this one box and it was all I could do not to scream in horror. She got me all right. Let's just say the outfit looked like something Laura Ingals would wear out there in the prairie. It was a deep jewel color with a sort of cocoa brown accent color. Long CORDUROY skirt with about 3 tiers of ruffles, a ruffle on the waist. And it had a matching vest. I just pasted a smile on my face cuz he looked so proud of that outfit. When he told me that Pammy had helped him pick it out then it made sense. She asked me later, with a wicked smile on her face, how I liked the outfit. I told her it was the most unusual outfit I had ever seen and couldn't wait to wear it. I don't think I've ever seen a smile hit the floor quite so fast. I ended up removing one of the ruffles in order fot it to not cover my feet. I bought some matching brown boots and found a shirt to match and ended up wearing it quite often that winter. I was doing my student teaching so it came in handy. Pammy was not happy. LOL
So...there's my thread...stinky niece...stinky boots...stinky almost niece. LOL
Monday, March 28, 2011
All's Swell...Sort of...
Okay...I am starting to settle down. I had my 'over-the-top-give-in-to-stress' thing tonight. I grabbed a bag out of the cupboard that my daughter had wanted from Trader Joe's...a bag of yogurt covered pretzels. Those things pack A LOT of calories! I ate over 200 calories worth. But, I got even with myself...I made myself do 60 minutes of cardio.
I filled out some job app.'s today and went to get my fingerprints taken care of for the state ed. board. My papers for my license (and the big check) went into the mail late Friday night. Next Tuesday I will start calling them and checking on my license. For now I am thinking that working in one of the many daycare centers over the summer with the school aged kids will be good..if I can get in. There were some tutor jobs advertised that pay REALLY well but I am not so sure there will be a whole lot of work in that area over the summer. I could be wrong.
Turns out my brother has a weird infection. It started out as a bad cold..then infected sinuses but he let it go so long the infection spread down into his chest cavity. He is on 5 different drugs for it now. As for the skinny little blonde...my mother needs to get her eyes checked. LOL
I recorded a show and watched another show today that I don't normally watch. The recorded show was about video game addiction. The show I watched was 'Dancing With the Stars'. ..I had that on while I was exercising. I figured if I was going to punish myself I would REALLY punish myself. Sorry...I'm not a fan BUT I was really impressed with 'the karate kid' guy...Ralph. Now THAT guy can cut a rug! If I tried to do even one minute of that dance I would have collapsed.
As for the Dr. Phil show...I can see some of what he was talking about happening with my son but not totally. TJ gets out and goes to class and he does his studying and class work. He isn't addicted to a video game, exactly. What he is addicted to is his friends online. Since we moved around so much and then he ultimately ended up doing his last 6 years of school online, he doesn't have but a couple of friends in the area. Most of his friends are guys his age online. They all have given each other nicknames (Brolly, Doom, Negative, etc.) and they have like a little club. They meet online to actually watch wrestling matches together and comment then they play games online together and joke around. I am looking forward to the day when he is done with college and hope he gets a job out there in the world with people he can work with face to face.
This week is Bethany's spring break. And just like when TJ was on Spring Break, she has the flu. Kind of a suckie spring break but at least it isn't interfering with school. LOL
I filled out some job app.'s today and went to get my fingerprints taken care of for the state ed. board. My papers for my license (and the big check) went into the mail late Friday night. Next Tuesday I will start calling them and checking on my license. For now I am thinking that working in one of the many daycare centers over the summer with the school aged kids will be good..if I can get in. There were some tutor jobs advertised that pay REALLY well but I am not so sure there will be a whole lot of work in that area over the summer. I could be wrong.
Turns out my brother has a weird infection. It started out as a bad cold..then infected sinuses but he let it go so long the infection spread down into his chest cavity. He is on 5 different drugs for it now. As for the skinny little blonde...my mother needs to get her eyes checked. LOL
I recorded a show and watched another show today that I don't normally watch. The recorded show was about video game addiction. The show I watched was 'Dancing With the Stars'. ..I had that on while I was exercising. I figured if I was going to punish myself I would REALLY punish myself. Sorry...I'm not a fan BUT I was really impressed with 'the karate kid' guy...Ralph. Now THAT guy can cut a rug! If I tried to do even one minute of that dance I would have collapsed.
As for the Dr. Phil show...I can see some of what he was talking about happening with my son but not totally. TJ gets out and goes to class and he does his studying and class work. He isn't addicted to a video game, exactly. What he is addicted to is his friends online. Since we moved around so much and then he ultimately ended up doing his last 6 years of school online, he doesn't have but a couple of friends in the area. Most of his friends are guys his age online. They all have given each other nicknames (Brolly, Doom, Negative, etc.) and they have like a little club. They meet online to actually watch wrestling matches together and comment then they play games online together and joke around. I am looking forward to the day when he is done with college and hope he gets a job out there in the world with people he can work with face to face.
This week is Bethany's spring break. And just like when TJ was on Spring Break, she has the flu. Kind of a suckie spring break but at least it isn't interfering with school. LOL
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